Do you know where that comes out of?!?!?!

4Feb/1014

Do you know where that comes out of?!?!?!

I got to work about 15 minutes ago (Time check: 10:45 AM. Yes my "real job" rules) and logged into Facebook to check the comings and goings of my friends during the night.

Before I tell you what I found I should explain a bizarre phenomenon. Despite the fact I grew up in fairly bustling suburb near Sacramento and went to a large(ish) high school nearly every single person I was close friends with as a teenager is married and/or has kids at the ripe ol' age of 25-26. In fact I know only of one other person from that era who is childless and unmarried but she's been with the same person for approximately 7 years.

As I was saying, I logged into Facebook and ended up having the following conversation.

There are two things I can not stand. The "childfree movement" and people who think their entire life is wrapped up in having their children (God I love Garfunkel and Oates). I really wanted to be a bitch and remind her she got knocked up at 19 and missed out on her youth but that would have completely invalidated my point.

Misery loves company:

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Keane
February 4th, 2010 - 13:21

All the witty remarks I had planned were sucked out of me like a pro wrestler at the Playboy Mansion… People should stop judging.
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 13:25

OH Keaners

**hug**
neil
February 4th, 2010 - 13:28

something something, I don’t trust anyone born after 1980, something something.

seriously, I think keane’s last four words say it all.
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 13:31

Touche Neil. Touche.
Dasha
February 4th, 2010 - 13:40

Dude, I’m with you. Just because marriage and kids are the farthest thing from my mind, it doesn’t mean I’m vapid and inexperienced in life.

Also, how many college students aged 18-24 have you met that don’t like to party (at least occasionally) and talk about their social lives? What else would one do in class while they’re bored? Some talk about politics, others talk about the crazy shit that one chick pulled at last night’s rager. Way to be judgemental… great example she’s setting for her kids!
burntdude
February 4th, 2010 - 13:42

I’m 34, not married and don’t have kids…in NYC, I’m totally normal. My friends in SF, in the same boat. When I lived on the southern West Coast (SoCal and Vegas), I found that most people were married and/or had children. When I went out on dates, especially in Vegas, girls were like “You’re 30 and don’t have any kids?”, “You’ve never been married, ever?”, etc. I think it’s regional and small town-esque. Don’t sweat it…

If you must retort, just give ‘em shit for living in the suburbs and going to a shitty college like Sierra!
your sister
February 4th, 2010 - 15:23

remember when I was informed that a “friend of mine” was “too busy growing a baby to work too much”
Rogue
February 4th, 2010 - 15:44

If not talking about the disease carriers I expelled from my uterus and giggling about sex and boys and what I did last night makes me vapid in some people’s eys, then I suppose I’ll never convince them otherwise. I know the point she was trying to make, but shit, my life ain’t so different than those 19 year olds except I’m not drinking to puke – I drink and then go nigh-nigh.
A friend of mine started a new job (in a booming “of the moment” company) and got the same grief. She felt like she was the outcast for not settling down and having a family early; like they judged her and looked down on “poor little her.”
Screw you ladies – I am having a CHILDLESS MUTHAFUKIN BLAST.
You can enjoy your Gymboree sessions, I’ll enjoy my brunch and mimosas with the rest of my friends who haven’t left their own personality behind to be mommy/wife/daddy/husband-bots.
Hm. I guess that hit a nerve with me too. )
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 15:50

Yeah I can’t explain why it struck SUCH a cord with me but it did. I seriously was in mid-conversation with one friend about the guys we’re dating and another one about his new iPhone when I read that. My sister is one of the only people on the planet I know who still has a personality and isn’t all mombot. I luffz her.
Lizz
February 4th, 2010 - 16:38

Rogue & Amanda, the mommybot thing is so gross. Amanda, I know I mentioned my sister in law earlier in regard to that…well, what I didn’t mention is that even her facebook url is “[Niece'sname]sMommy”. No joke.
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 16:48

I love my sister. I just got off the phone with her. She was irate over the FB conversation. As she basically put it “this girl had to grow up and mature not because she had kids but because she was just growing up”. Seriously, the girl was 19 when she had her first kid.

Btw my sister ROCKS
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 16:59

Here is the end of the conversation. I have literally nothing else to say
tabitha
February 4th, 2010 - 17:14

This reminds me of that oft quoted scene in Bridget Jones when she arrives to the dinner party and one of the guests asks her:

Why is it there are so many unmarried women in their thirties these days, Bridget?

Bridget says: Oh, I don’t know. Suppose it doesn’t help that underneath our clothes our entire bodies are covered in scales.
amanda
February 4th, 2010 - 17:35

Wait……..when you were single Tabitha your body WASN’T covered in scales?!?!??!?!

Oh man..I think I need to have something looked at :-/